A very dangerous habit, this day-dreaming syndrome, as I
came to realize through the horrible experience of an unfortunate friend. Well,
I used to day-dream too, and still do, but I exercise it with a bit of caution –
now that I know how it can come back to bite your bottom later.
So, this is what happened. My friend is an artist of sorts. He
keeps drawing people’s caricatures in an attempt to improve his artistic
skills. I think he knows that he is hardly any good at it, but I give him a lot
of credit for trying and trying and trying again. When he started his college
year, he quickly made friends around because of his open nature, yet brooding
nature. But a month hence, people started withdrawing from him, keeping their
distance, even avoiding him at some stage. This, a couple of people found very
strange because among the people avoiding him, were mostly women. When asked, a
couple of them accused him of being a pervert because he kept staring at their
breasts sometimes. Many people just shook their heads and muttered
intelligibly. The matter almost reached the ears of the Director of the
Institute. Things continued going downhill for him until one guy decided to
check things out for himself. So he started observing this fellow minutely till
he discovered that my friend had absolutely no fascination for breasts and that
he as staring into space, thinking out his caricatures. It happened more than
once that he was pulled out of his own world by this amateur detective while
seemingly staring at nobody in particular. It was only then that people started
realizing that he was merely going off into his artistic world and not fantasizing
about every woman in the college.
One can imagine how such an apparently harmless thing as
day-dreaming can lead to such serious consequences, especially for someone who
is not even aware of what is happening around him/her. But, there is also
another thing to take out of this story – How we judge people immediately and
brutally upon the comments or observations of others. How we are so easily
mislead by our own brains or others because we are too lazy to find things out
for ourselves. It is almost horrendous to think of the number of times we have
judged others based on others’ opinions. Given a moment of reflection, I’m sure
a lot of people will recollect at least one incident where they judged a person
before even talking to them.
I believe in this matter, we are rather like a flock of
sheep. The one who is at the head will turn in a particular direction and the rest
will blindly follow the bleater in front. There is hardly any sense of wait –
take a breath – talk – find out for yourself. All we want is everything to be
fast but how about taking a moment to review those decisions. To really see and
not just glance at what passes for unimportant, because that review will mean
the difference between a good friend and a scorned pervert.
Moral of the Story: Day-dreaming makes you a pervert.
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